by Danielle Wright & Dr. Lance Thompson, LMFT
There is a common misconception that if a woman has sex with a man, she will fall madly in love with him—this is far from the truth.
Perhaps she will be more attracted to him and want to spend time with him, but falling in love or catering to him and crying on his voicemail, not so much. You see, women are biologically wired differently from men. While men may fall in love with a woman’s anatomy (having sex with her), a woman will only fall in love through an emotional connection. This is why some sexless marriages or same-sex relationships where one partner prefers not to be touched can thrive.
The orgasm gap is truly what separates men and women in the bedroom. Indiana University shows the proportion of people who usually orgasm as follows: 65% of heterosexual women, 66% of bisexual women, 86% of lesbian women, 88% of bisexual men, 89% of gay men, and 95% of heterosexual men.
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Based on this data, we can conclude that for heterosexual women, sex isn’t the prize. She doesn’t stand to benefit as much when compared to her male counterpart. If there is a woman you’re dating and she’s prolonging the sex or taking her time before deciding that she is ready to be intimate, don’t take it personally. It simply means that there’s nothing for her to be excited about—the excitement is typically for you, not her.
Now, are we saying that women cannot enjoy sex? No, that is certainly not the case. Sex can be pleasurable for a woman, but releasing oxytocin during sex may help to relieve pain, potentially reduce headaches, and release more of the feel-good hormone. If her body is not associating any of this with you, then it’s safe to say she will not fall in love with you. Now that we’ve covered that, and you are hopefully looking to grow intimate with your partner for more than the possibility that she’ll be stuck to you like glue and therefore inflate your ego, here are some signs that a woman wants to sleep with you.
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