I Want to Get Back With an Ex Who Cheated!

For a relationship to last, both people must trust each other completely. Without trust, the relationship will deteriorate as one or both partners begin to behave in unloving or disrespectful ways. So, the real question isn’t, “Should I get back with a cheating ex?” but rather, “If we get back together, can I truly forgive them and move forward without constantly bringing up the past or subconsciously holding it against them?”

When you break up with someone and then decide to reconcile, you must recognize that neither of you are the same people you were before. No matter how much time has passed or how many conversations you’ve had, the break in your relationship has caused you both to grow and change as individuals. What was once a shared identity has now separated.

If you genuinely believe you can forgive your ex, start fresh, and build a stronger, healthier relationship because you’ve both learned and matured from the experience, then yes, it’s possible to give the relationship another chance. However, if you’re unsure, you’ll find yourself constantly waiting for the next betrayal, which will undermine any chance of rebuilding trust.

The truth is, while you may have every reason not to forgive your ex for cheating, if you choose to reconcile, full forgiveness is essential. Without it, the relationship will not survive.

Through this process, you’ll likely realize that your definition of love has changed, your initial ability to trust has altered, and your view of the person who cheated is no longer the same. You might try to convince yourself that everything can return to the way it was, that love alone is enough to overcome the doubts and fears caused by their betrayal. But the reality is, emotional walls have been built, and defenses have been erected to protect yourself from being hurt again.

Until you acknowledge this change within yourself and accept that things are no longer the same, unresolved issues from the past will resurface and magnify, creating even more strain. If you truly want to make things work, communication is essential. You both must have honest, open conversations about the pain caused, the trust that was broken, the lies that were told, and the secrets that were kept.

Before you chase after a flame that has been extinguished, remind yourself that the relationship ended for a reason. Life’s changes and shifts often happen to guide us forward. If you’re still determined to give your heart to the person who broke it, make a promise to yourself: never let nostalgia blind you to the reality of the situation.

by Kayla McCullough