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How Women’s Independence Can Be Misinterpreted as Selfishness In Relationships

by Danielle Wright

 

The other day, I worked on an article centered around the soft life trend and how it’s shifting dating expectations.

How Women’s Independence Can Be Misinterpreted as Selfishness in Relationships

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Today, I want to expand on that, considering there is a video going viral of relationship coach and content creator Princella sharing a story about her and a young lady she was dating. In the video, she details a time when she and this young lady were heading to an event, and the woman says she needs to use the restroom, requesting that Princella stop at a Chick-fil-A. Princella lets her know that since they are running late, she will not be able to stop there and will have to get gas anyway, so she lets the young lady know that she can use the restroom there instead.


Makes sense—logical and considerate if you ask me. Princella goes on to say, “She throws a fit because I won’t make an extra stop so she can go use whatever bathroom she wants to use. Forget that you’re making me late, forget that I gotta get gas, and I say we can do one stop. No, she made that a big issue.” Princella then shares that other women defended the young lady, citing things like, “That’s your lady; you’re supposed to stop and take her to a nice, pretty bathroom.” The relationship coach, shocked by the responses she received, deduced that women view her as a man.


“Women look at me as a man, so they treat me like one. In their mind, I was supposed to bend over backward and take her to a special place to use the bathroom. To hell with me making a logical decision to do a one-stop shop so we can get on the road.” This type of behavior from many women toward men—and sometimes other women—is not uncommon. After spending some time on the app Bumble BFF, I decided I wanted to make some friends and came across a young lady who was open to having dinner.


We went for dinner, and when the bill came, I insisted that we split the bill since we both had the same thing. She asked that we not do that and if she could simply pay the tip because it would come out to the same amount. Instead of arguing, I reluctantly agreed, but on the way home, I realized that I had been swindled. Another young lady did this exact same thing to me as well. When speaking with my brother about it, he stated, “They think you’re a man and should be picking up the tab for them.”

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I am as girly and feminine as they come, but this simply goes to show that when it comes to narcissistic women, they do not discriminate between men or women—once they can use you, they will. The reality is, most women are selfish. When it comes to dating or hanging out with friends, they will almost always prioritize themselves and their well-being. When they fail to get their way or the people around them set firm boundaries, they use this as an excuse to exit the relationship or end their friendships. Unfortunately, narcissistic women are not talked about enough because there are more women who have negative experiences with men than vice versa.

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