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How to Glow Up

by Danielle Wright

Are you looking to have a "glow up"?

Well, you've come to the right place. This transformation is a significant change in a person’s appearance, confidence, and overall lifestyle. The end result is a more polished and attractive version of yourself. This transformation can be physical, spiritual, emotional, or all of the above, and it involves improvements in health, self-care, fashion, and personal development.


A glow up can happen over time or be a deliberate effort to enhance your self-esteem. When you decide to glow up, it’s one of those things that must be intentional and not done because you see others living a life you wish to emulate. Do you want to feel more confident, look your best, and be healthy? The operative word here is YOU. We can’t stress enough how important it is for you to do things because you want to and not because you see others doing it or believe it’s going to attract others to you.


For example, women are often taught that they have to be busy or not respond right away to a mans texts and emails to avoid looking desperate. This is not the solution, and I encourage women to unlearn this immediately. Whenever you do anything for the male gaze or support, it is always apparent because you will go out of your way to express your need for validation. When you feel like your man hasn’t complimented you, it’s because you’ve made changes to yourself—which you may not even be comfortable with—all for the sake of being noticed and accepted.


Rule number one for the glow up: confidence is king. Here’s what author Lisa K. Stephenson says on confidence, “I don’t know. I just always tell myself that if I want to look a certain way—I can. If I want to have a 30-inch middle part bust down with a flat stomach and a big butt, I can and I will when I feel like exerting the energy needed to achieve that. Until then, I’m going to do what I want.” Confidence requires you to do things on your time and when it feels good to and for you.


Spending your last dime to get lashes or nails only to impress strangers online is not confidence, it’s insecurity, and men will always see right through that. Plenty of times, we see beautiful women who are single or only left to be baby mothers instead of wives, and it has a lot to do with lacking confidence and knowledge. Their glow up is not for them, it’s for the people around them. So when the veil falls and they are no longer in a position to keep up appearances, the people around them see them at their lowest and then pity them.


KEY ASPECTS OF THE GLOW UP INCLUDE

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