by Kyla Cruz
Infidelity can be a devastating blow to a relationship.
If you suspect that your partner is cheating, it can be difficult to know how to approach the topic without causing further damage. While it may seem like getting someone to admit to cheating is an impossible task, there are some strategies you can use to increase your chances of getting the truth.
APPROACH THE TOPIC WITH CARE
If you suspect that your partner is cheating, it’s important to approach the topic with care. Accusing someone of cheating without evidence can damage the relationship and cause unnecessary pain. Instead, start by asking open-ended questions that allow your partner to share their thoughts and feelings. For example, you could say, “I’ve noticed that we’ve been having some issues lately. How do you feel about our relationship?”
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LOOK FOR SIGNS OF CHEATING
If you suspect that your partner is cheating, there are some common signs to look for. These can include sudden changes in behavior, increased secrecy, and a lack of interest in intimacy. While these signs do not necessarily indicate that your partner is cheating, they can be an indicator that something is not right in the relationship.
KEEP A LEVEL HEAD
It’s important to keep a level head when approaching the topic of cheating. While it can be an emotional topic, getting angry or defensive will not help the situation. Instead, stay calm and focused on finding out the truth. If your partner is cheating, getting angry will only give them an excuse to continue their behavior.
Most men will look to rationalize their behavior any way they can, and if you get angry, they will use it against you. In those moments, it will feel less about them and more about you and your attitude. Their actions will then feel justified.
Relationship Coach and Author Lisa K. Stephenson has this to say, “As a transformed woman who is now in her thirties, my go-to response when I am told about my significant other's affairs or infidelity is, ‘Okay, what do you want me to do?’
The truth is, at that point—whether you suspect it or it's confirmed—you have to begin preparing for a life without this person. I refuse to enter into a new relationship looking like what I’ve been through. Not all men cheat, so I will not waste tears and stress over one who has; their decisions have nothing to do with me. My focus is then to reward the new partner with a fresh, happy, kind, loving, and beautiful version of myself.”
GATHER EVIDENCE
If you suspect that your partner is cheating, gathering evidence can help you to get the truth. This could include checking their phone or social media accounts, monitoring their movements, or hiring a private investigator. While gathering evidence may feel invasive, it can help you to get the truth and move forward.
One thing to note is that once you start investigating your partner's phone and social media accounts, there's no turning back. You must be prepared to leave if you find something you don't like. Complaining will only work against you, as your partner may lose respect for you. They may think that you'll tolerate anything, which is not the message you want to convey. You need to show that you have the ability to leave if the situation is not to your liking.
ASK DIRECT QUESTIONS
While it can be difficult to ask direct questions about cheating, it’s important to be clear and concise. Instead of beating around the bush, ask your partner directly if they have been unfaithful. While this may be uncomfortable, it’s the only way to get a clear answer.
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TRUST YOUR INSTINCTS
If you suspect that your partner is cheating, it’s important to trust your instincts. While it can be tempting to dismiss your suspicions, ignoring them will not make the problem go away. If you feel like something is not right, it’s important to take action and get to the truth.
Most women stay in relationships due to financial restraints. If this applies to you and you're ignoring your instincts because you fear losing out in the long run, start setting yourself up financially. Although this is easier said than done, you can begin by searching online for ways to make money.
FeetFinder is a good option due to its privacy aspect. You can earn enough money to start planning your exit. Don't stay in a relationship where you're not appreciated and celebrated. Remember, you deserve the world, even if you have to give it to yourself.
BE PREPARED FOR THE TRUTH
While it can be painful to hear that your partner has been unfaithful, it’s important to be prepared for the truth. If your partner admits to cheating, it’s important to take time to process your emotions and decide how to move forward. This may include seeking counseling or ending the relationship.
In conclusion, getting someone to admit to cheating can be a difficult and emotional process. However, by approaching the topic with care, gathering evidence, and asking direct questions, you can increase your chances of getting the truth. Remember to trust your instincts and be prepared for the truth, whatever it may be.