by Danielle Wright
It may come as a surprise, but there are many married couples who simply cannot get along with one another.
Women complain of their husbands' weaponized incompetence, and men complain that their wives spend too much or don’t contribute enough to the household. So, the question remains: who is right and who is wrong? Both. Marriage is the legally or formally recognized union of two people as partners in a personal relationship. Typically, when two people decide to get married, it’s because they love each other. However, studies show that unless a couple is at least definitely engaged before they move in together, the relationship is at risk of falling apart.
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This is because couples who are engaged or married before living together have higher levels of trust in one another than those who are not, making them more tolerant of their partner's unfavorable behaviors. When spouses start to not get along, it’s usually due to an underlying problem that has not been resolved in the relationship. Perhaps there was some past infidelity, financial issues, lack of sex, lack of romance, or bad communication—the list can go on.
Unlike a couple who is simply cohabitating, the pent-up aggression and resentment are harder to shake or escape from—when you’re married, there are a series of obstacles you have to go through before becoming legally divorced. This can cause a further rip in your finances, strain your relationship with your children, and so much more. This leaves couples to ponder, “Well, if I stay, maybe things can get easier,” but this is not always the solution.
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