by Danielle Wright & Diamond Brown
Can the music you listen to keep you single?
The answer is: maybe. Music is the art of arranging sounds in time to create a unique composition that expresses emotion, tells a story, or conveys ideas. It combines elements like melody, rhythm, harmony, and dynamics to evoke feelings, connect people, and transcend the boundaries of language and culture. It’s always interesting to see fans go to war over their favorite musician, but this rarely happens for their favorite actor or the owner of their favorite restaurant. So, what makes music so hypnotic and powerful?
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And are there negative effects to idolizing celebrities? Music can be spellbinding because it taps into the depths of human emotion, stirring feelings of joy, sadness, nostalgia, or excitement. It has the power to stimulate the senses. The downside to being a music lover is that while you may enjoy a particular artist—perhaps even follow them on Instagram or Twitter—their music might actually contribute to stagnancy in your life.
Artists like SZA and Summer Walker, who often sing about losing a partner, loving a partner more than themselves, or, in some cases, being a proud side chick, serve as prime examples. We listen to their music, recite their lyrics, and before we know it, the haunting melodies begin to evoke feelings within us. These feelings can lead us to break no contact, stay in toxic relationships, or worse, become a third party in someone else’s relationship.
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Idolizing celebrities can lead someone to feel obligated to listen to and support everything that artist shares with the world, which can be detrimental. If an artist is going through a breakup and chooses to stay in that relationship while singing about it, they can influence their listeners to do the same in their own lives. Music makes us feel safe because it creates a sense of unity or intimacy that we may not believe we can find elsewhere.
This type of codependency leads us to believe that the music we’re listening to is a guiding light, a compass directing us into the next chapter of our relationships. Whether you want to believe it or not, songs act as spells, and this is the primary reason why there is a clear distinction in the music released by Black artists versus non-Black artists. Encouraging men and women to engage in a culture that is unhealthy for their community overall is a nefarious plot carried out through the melodies and harmonies we hear booming through our speakers and headphones.
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