by Danielle Wright
Let me preface this by saying, a broke man is someone who cannot provide for anyone outside of himself.
In other words, he may drive a nice vehicle, live in a beautiful home, have a stable career with a 401k, but beyond that, if he were to procreate with a woman and there were health complications that prohibit her from working, he would not be able to provide a stable environment for that woman and their child. It’s understandable that today the term ‘broke man’ is used quite loosely. It is seen as men who cannot pay for a woman to get her hair and nails done or pay a light bill, etc., but those things are minor and are not the responsibility of a man you are talking to/dating.
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Dating someone who is financially struggling can lead to significant disadvantages, notably financial stress and unequal contributions. Financial stress arises from limitations on activities, an inability to go out for meals or entertainment, and constant worry about money matters. Additionally, an imbalance in contributions to expenses, such as rent, groceries, or leisure activities, can foster feelings of resentment or frustration if one partner feels they are shouldering a disproportionate financial burden.
Moreover, the relationship may entail limited lifestyle choices due to financial constraints, dictating where you can go, what you can do, and how you can spend your time together. This can be particularly challenging if partners have differing expectations or preferences for social activities or travel.
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Dependency dynamics and future planning challenges further compound the drawbacks. Financial instability may create dependency within the relationship, where one partner feels reliant on the other for financial support, leading to feelings of insecurity or power imbalances. Moreover, challenges in planning for the future, such as saving for major milestones like buying a home or starting a family, may arise due to differences in financial priorities or goals, potentially causing tension or conflict. Lastly, dating someone who is struggling financially can impact one's self-esteem and sense of security, especially if they value financial stability or independence. This may result in questioning one's choices and feeling anxious about the future of the relationship.