by Danielle Wright
A long-distance relationship can be a preference for many people, particularly those with avoidant personality disorder or other social phobias. However, just because it is a preference does not mean it is always feasible. Sometimes, we like who we like, whether that person is 10,000 miles away or just 10 miles. I once met a girl who was on every dating app imaginable, each set to a different location.
When I asked her why she did this, she responded, "I want to cast a wide net, and long-distance relationships mean I get to travel to different places and have an excuse to see the world." While this may seem odd to many, it’s quite normal for someone like her. Therapists describe this behavior as "having a reluctance to share and a fear of commitment."
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Let's face it: if you are always traveling and meeting new men here, there, and everywhere, how can you possibly build a genuine connection with any of them? We can put this theory to the test when we watch shows like '90 Day Fiancé,' where many of the couples openly admit to using dating apps that predominantly allow them to meet men and women in foreign countries.
While some are only looking to make new friends in the foreign places they visit, others are, in fact, looking for love. Those with social phobias often express a deep interest in seeking long-distance relationships due to fears of being exposed to the scrutiny and potential negative evaluation of others or acting in an embarrassing or humiliating manner.
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Upon her arrival, Jasmine noticed that Gino's home was unclean and that he is an avid porn consumer. Not only that, but the women he tends to date and marry are usually from overseas, women he can bring to America and have some form of control over. He does not have to endure being with a woman daily, which would subject him to facing his social phobias.
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