Are Sex Workers Replacing Girlfriends?

There’s a shift happening as it appears that many FS (full-service) sex workers and OnlyFans models are making a lot of money, yet there are still many single women.

There are pros and cons in the industry, for sure, but lately, it’s becoming glamorized on platforms such as TikTok and Instagram. However, when women talk about wanting to date and marry a man with means, why are they demonized, but sex workers are not? One FS worker, whose content I enjoy consuming on TikTok, shares ‘day in the life’ stories where she discusses some of the privileges she gets to experience as a sex worker.

One of which is having the luxury of using her client’s credit card to foot the bill for some of her day-to-day expenses—whether this is getting vampire facials or treating herself to a shopping spree. Not only is she compensated for sex work, but she also gets to enjoy free gifts, dinner, and shopping excursions, and no one is calling her a gold-digger. It’s safe to say that perhaps men don’t want a woman for who and what she is—uncaring of her intellect and emotional faculties. A woman’s anatomy is what’s most important to men, at least in today’s society.

THE DECLINE OF MATCHMAKING EVENTS

Matchmaking events used to be popular experiences, whether it was speed dating or mixer events where participants were equally interested in exploring the possibilities of serious relationships. In these spaces, men could approach women who were clearly open to getting to know each other and seeing where things might lead. This contrasts with a man approaching a woman doing her weekly grocery shopping and becoming irate when she expresses no interest.

Today, matchmaking events promoted online face criticism from men in the comments, who often see these events as strange and desperate. Women have made videos showing themselves at solo events recently, and for the most part, men do not show up. Their defense is that they can simply slide into a girl’s DMs on Instagram or speak to one in person. While face-to-face interactions are not condemned, it is odd that men opt out of opportunities to speak to women who want to be approached.

Just because a woman is in public does not mean she is accessible and wants to be approached by men. For the average man, if he sees a woman in his area and is attracted to her, he assumes she must be single and available—there is no one to tell him otherwise. With the rise of relationship content via podcasts and YouTube, it’s clear that many men are not interested in courting women who they deem not worth the investment.

However, we see many adult content creators raking in thousands per month from their posts and, in some cases, in-person interactions. The model I mentioned earlier charges $1,500 per session and sometimes sees up to three clients daily. So, I ask, are FS workers replacing girlfriends? If a sex worker can earn almost $14,000 a week for sex, why is it a problem when a woman says she wants to be taken on a date that costs at least $200 when a man says he’s interested in her?

I suppose this can boil down to one thing—guaranteed sex. However, this makes the aforementioned comment true: "men don’t want women for who and what they are." We can’t argue that a man is looking for a lifelong partner who wants to help him build when these men are shelling out hundreds, if not thousands, of dollars to consume adult content or, in some cases, engage in it. If it’s about her personality and finding a partner to share a life with, then why is dating and courting so hard?

Why wouldn’t you want to impress the woman you’ve expressed a physical attraction to? When we go on a job interview, we want to make a good first impression. We are not going to show up in jeans or a sweatsuit. You’re going to pull out your Sunday best in hopes of impressing the people responsible for rewarding you for your time.

You should want to impress the woman who will be responsible for meeting your physical needs, cooking your meals, raising your children—if that’s something you both want—and so much more. She will be an integral part of your life, so if you need to work hard at impressing her, then why aren’t you doing that? If you have to show up and put in the effort to keep your job, then don’t you suppose it’s the same for a relationship?

FS workers and OnlyFans models are becoming the new girlfriends—they f*** and shut up. This concept changes the game completely and redefines the term "girlfriend" altogether. Is a girlfriend now just guaranteed sex, and is a wife just the person who raises your kids? As women, we have to take a step back and examine the world unfolding before our eyes.

Men are not looking for wives and girlfriends; they are biding their time until the invention of a sex doll with which they can simply get their rocks off, avoid emotional intimacy, and keep their money in the bank. Until then, they’ll pretend to like you long enough for you to have their kids and spend their additional income on $20/month OnlyFans subscriptions. It’s getting scary, to say the least, so if you still believe in love, consider the option of arranged marriage and dating.

by Danielle Wright